«First of all, understand this; people don’t look down on you,
if they understand that you’re nervous. Do you think you’d look
down on someone because you discovered their nervousness?
To gain control of the anxiety, you should record the worst
episodes, the «triggers» themselves, and create a hedging
strategy. Eventually, it will be easier to push the anxiety aside,
and control the trigger.Then you may be able to speak in congregations,
without too much planning on what you’re going to say.
To be able to seek eye contact, not be elusive; show offface, and
even if you blush; take the word, don’t hide away, or hide hands,
even if you tremble. The goal is not to avoid nervousness, everyone
experiences it from time to time, butto accept the anxiety,
not prevent anyone from saying what is on your mind. Others won’t
look down on you if they find you nervous.
»Think about it, would you even look down on someone because they
were anxious? Anxiety is never something to be ashamed of. Practice
accepting nervousness in social ituations, i.e. not hide the anxiety from
others will reduce anxiety about anxiety.» This gives you control over your
anxiety, because it gets less attention. You weaken your self-focus and
increase your external focus, so that attention is directed to what is
happening and what you want to say and do in the situation.
Anxiety becomes less frightening when we accept that it exists.
It takes up less space when it receive less attention. Rule of
thumb: accept the anxiety inside you, and focus on what you
are doing. Over time, you systematically practice accepting
the anxiety reactions. Draw attention to what you want to hear,
say or do in different social situations. That’s a good strategy.
Panic in case of panic disorder, anxiety comes abruptly and without
warning, often along with physical reactionssuch as difficulty
breathing and choking sensations, heartache, increased or irregular
heart rate, sweating, trembling, chest pain, nausea, dizziness, numbness,
feeling fainting and fear of death.
Such seizures can be very frightening.
Phobias are an irrational and intense fear of certain situations, objects,
or activitieswhich one seeks to avoid at all costs. Phobias can be divided
into three main types: social phobias,specific objects such as spiders or
snakes. Or specific situations, such as flights or heights. Phobia is fear
of interaction with other people, in large or specific groups of people,
or only in certain situations. Social phobia can bring with it exaggerated
fear of making a fool of themselves or infront of others.Being humiliated
in front of others is the greatest fear of them all. We can exercise on
the anxiety, it is possible to have a daily routine, practicing on making
the anxiety less prominent. You can win and control your emotions…..